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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Finding Your Identity in Jesus Christ

Finding Your Identity in Jesus Christ

Susie Larson shares how she learned to fight for the identity Jesus gave her as His precious daughter, even though her life experiences made her feel like a ‘second-class citizen.’ Starting at age nine when we she was attacked by a group of boys, Susie felt she was targeted for tragedy. Hear how she found a whole new perspective and identity as a “daughter of the King.”
Original Air Date: June 9, 2022

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Susie Larson: When God looks at you, His heart beats out of His chest, He loves you so much. If you’re shy and that you have less to say, that’s okay. But if you think you’re less than, that’s absolutely not okay. If you live your life trying to dig yourself out of a hole, you’re living a lie. Jesus loves you. You’re no better than, but you are not less than.

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John Fuller: Hmm. What a great word of encouragement from today’s Focus on the Family guest, Susie Larson. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us, I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Susie is a great friend to this ministry, and she has been through some really tough stuff, starting at a very young age. And yet the Lord has redeemed Susie’s suffering, which is what He does. And He has helped her see her true identity as a believer in Christ. And I’m so excited to hear her message today.

Jim: Uh, Susie Larson is a popular radio talk show host, a nationally known speaker and the author of 19 books. Uh, one of her latest titles is a devotional called Prevail: 365 Days of Enduring Strength Through God’s Word. And we’d encourage you to get a copy from us here at Focus on the Family.

John: It’s available at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or just give us a call. Here now is Susie Larson, speaking at an event called Girl Talk on the topic of identity on today’s Focus on the Family.

Susie: Identity is, um, not something I came by naturally at all. And I just have a little bit of time to give you a little bit of my backstory, but I was raised in a large, Catholic family. I knew God was real. I didn’t know at that time Jesus was accessible. Um, around nine-years-old, was around the time my mom needed to get a job to help put food on the table. And, um, around that time, my brother started to hang with some creepy boys. And, um, I was just a small, young, people pleaser. I just remember just wanting to follow the rules all the time. And, um, uh, one day, uh, I was walking home from school, and I see, uh, my brother’s friends’ bikes in front of the house. And we had just a, a close family, a crazy family, but even like when, um, when my mom would come home from work, I used to show her the candle with the BB in it going, “This was meant for me, it’s not safe when you’re not here.” (laughs) You know.

Susie: My brothers would be like, “Dance,” and I’d be like, “Hop along?” You know?

Audience: (laughs).

Susie: Uh, you know, brothers were like that, but they really did get into a place and a season where they were hanging with some icky guys. And at this particular day, I remember coming home from school, seeing those bikes and thinking, “I don’t wanna be chased with the BB gun. I don’t wanna be knobbed on the forehead and they’re, I don’t feel right around these guys.” So I decided I would go into the la- laundry room in the basement, get my favorite sweatshirt out of the dryer and then go up to my room and read a book until my mom got home. And, uh, nine years old, I’m digging into the dryer trying to find my, my shirt or my sweatshirt and the door shut behind me. And I turned around to see several of my brother’s friends, but no brother. And in moments time, I don’t know how, how it happened, where I went from hands in the dryer to hands pinned on the floor, but they had my ankles and my wrist pinned in the floor. And, um, I got up from that place very, very confused about who I was. It was a canyon of open, uh, insecurity opened up in my life and, uh, self-loathing, and fear, and all kinds of things. Um, I’d heard a number of things at that age that made me wonder if this was my fault. So I was really afraid to tell anybody. So I didn’t. And, um, about a year later, about 10-years-old, I’m walking home from school, I was pretty, about four feet tall, not much, (laughing), shorter, taller than I am now, but anyway.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: Uh, I was walking home, and I saw those bikes again. And I remember saying out loud, and this is just so you understand a context of a child who doesn’t understand who I was or what exactly had happened to me. But I said out loud, “I don’t care if God made me this way. Those boys will never touch me again.” And out of the blue, I hear in my peripheral, “Get her.” And it was a different group of boys who were getting high in the dugout, saw me walking home alone and jumped me, knocked me to the ground and beat me to a pulp. And I remember just, uh, curled up in a ball, screaming for help. They were kicking me in the stomach, punching me in the face, pulling fistfuls of hair out. And I just screamed, and they laughed. And, uh, they had this crazy look in their eye. And when I got up, I had a fat lip, and scratched face, and bruised ribs, snarled hair. And I heard in my ear, I don’t know that it was audible, but it might as well have been, “I can get to you anytime, anywhere, and God will never stop me.” And so I knew God was real and I knew the devil was real, at that point. And I have to tell you, that’s when fear entered my life. Well, you jump ahead, I came to Christ at about eighth grade. I just loved God, loved Jesus so much. I understood at that time that I was saved, but I did not understand that I was loved. And I would submit to you many, many Christians, live and die who are saved, but are not free. They’re living and dying, knowing they’re saved, but they don’t know that they’re loved. And so I became as a young-adult, Christian, a striver. I mean, prior to that, I was an athlete and so I used all of my talents to dig myself out of the identity hole. And this is just, what’s true, if we don’t know who we are, we will perpetually misuse our time, treasure and talents to prove something that Jesus has already proven. And it’s a colossal waste of our time. We must know who we are, but I didn’t, I didn’t know. So I’m striving, I’m on five committees. I’m trying to do everything I can to kind of compensate for the wretch that I really relieved myself to be like, I had a deep, dark secret, you know. And, uh, got married to my dear husband. And, uh, we were gonna wait five years to have kids and we got pregnant on our honeymoon. I know, and my husband, and I’m telling everybody, you know, I wanted, I just was so insecure that I’m like, “We waited, I promise we waited.”

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And he’s like, “Let ’em think what they want.” You know? Uh, but anyway…

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: … during the first pregnancy we found out I had endometriosis and doctor says, “You will have a hysterectomy in your 20s. So you have to get, if you want more children have ’em now.” My middle pregnancy, I was on bedrest for three months. My last pregnancy, my third pregnancy, I was on bedrest for six months with a one and a three-year-old. And the, the one-year-old was strong-willed. And, uh, my first one was compliant, so we thought we were good parents, (laughs), and then we had our second one and then we thought, never mind.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: Um, but he was the strong-willed child who spent his life in the corner. I mean, I would go sit with them just so I could bond with them, ’cause I’m like, I never see you except for here.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: So, um, so you can imagine with six months on bedrest, I literally had friends tell me, “I’ll watch Jake.” Like, “You’ll have to figure out Luke, but I got Jake,” you know?

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And, uh, but if you remember the trauma that happened, I was a good Christian and that I was always, um, giving more than I was taking. So to be put on bedrest for six months, to have to be at the mercy of people bringing meals, people helping, seeing people get fatigued on my behalf was a nightmare come true. We were going financially broke too. And I literally was telling my kids, “Five more months till mommy can make your sandwiches. Four and a half more months till mommy can take you to the park.” And yet I’m watching my friends tire out. They’re running out of grace. I, it confronted every fear and insecurity in me. I was getting pretty depressed. I was six months along, had three months left to go and I hadn’t contracted for a couple of days. So the doctors said, “You know what? Let’s get you up. You’re seeming kind of depressed. Let’s just get you get up.” Met a couple girlfriends, my roommates from college, and we just walked along a path, leaves were falling. It was glorious. I was super careful. We ate lunch. By nighttime, I was contracting. So I was back in bed. And, uh, two weeks from that outing, I had a girlfriend come visit me. And she said, “Can I get you water?” And I pointed and pins and needles shot out my arm. And she continued to talk, and this buzzing feeling started at the base of my skull and crawled around to my face. And it felt like there was like a blood sucker on my face. And, uh, I started to have these neurological fireworks. My memory started to go, but I’ve got three months left. And, uh, I had this friend at the time who had the gift of discouragement.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: I don’t know, do you have one of those?

Audience: (laughs).

Susie: And um, I cannot believe that she said this to me, but I was telling her about the neurological symptoms. And she says, “Well, yeah, I guess it’s personalities like yours that most often get MS.”

Audience: Oh no!

Susie: “That’s probably what you have.” And I’ve got a few months left and I’m thinking I have exhausted all my friends on six months of pregnancy. I, you know, kill me now. I, I couldn’t even, because of the insecurity, and the trauma and the fear around a disease like that, but just my bigger fear was losing everybody in my life because I would become such a debt to society. It was so scary for me. Well, she left and I, again, a new level of fear entered my life. Well, long story short, I delivered my little boy, my third son, and at, it was dead of winter. And he, well around four-weeks-old, got very sick with a respiratory issue. And so here, I’m at night doing the night feedings with him and my face is going numb. I got like a sword going through my leg and pins and needles. I mean, it was just crazy. And I’m like, what in the world is wrong with me? But I’m trying to do the night feedings. Well, at four weeks old, he ends up in the hospital with double pneumonia and I’m sitting in the hospital room with him, exhausted, and I know something’s wrong with my body and I know I have to face it, but I honestly just can’t bear it. I’ve just got on my feet again, you know. I just started to be able to make my kids meals and I’m thinking I’ve gotta face whatever this is. And all of a sudden it was like someone poured this oil of joy over my head. And I had my journal there and it made no sense because every trip to the hospital is costing us money. I’m in my 20s, feeling like I’m 90. And I had three little boys who were like a party waiting to happen. So I’m like, how am I gonna do my life? But here’s my little four-week-old in the hospital. And here I’ve got all this joy that makes no sense. So I wrote to my journal, “God, you’re up to something here. I’ll take it, whatever it is.” When we get him home after a week, and then my health plummeted, and it took a year to find out. They ruled out MS, they ruled out a brain tumor. But my one day off of bedrest, apparently the deer tick, latched on gave me Lyme disease.

Audience: Oh no!

Susie: And when I got the diagnosis a year later, there’s the thing, “I can get to you anytime, anywhere. And God will never stop me.” And this was a fear that nipped at my heels for many years. And I remember, and I was telling Janna, my publicist who’s here tonight, that I was diligent. Uh, I loved God’s word. I loved His presence. Um, but I had so much fear and insecurity, I just did. And I remember as a young mom, battling these memory things, battling the health thing, feeling so much like I have not, you know? My friends had their health, they had their wealth and I just constantly felt like He lost my address. You know? And I remember one day studying the word, getting up from that place going, “I don’t get it. Where’s the victory because there’s a very big disconnect between what you’re telling me and what I’m living. I, where is the victory for me? Am I truly a have not? What’s my problem?” And the Lord whispered to my heart something so clear. And it was a game changer for me. He said, “Susie, I get that you love me, but you don’t get and understand that I love you. So until I tell you different, every time you want to say you, that you love me, I want you to turn it around and say, “You love me, Lord.” And that felt so odd to me, but I said it, “You love me, Lord.” I’d yell at my kids and then feel bad about it, ’cause our life was impossible at the time. And He’d whisper, “say it now. You love me, Lord.” I’d do something great like finish my laundry. (laughs).

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: You love me, Lord. And it started to heal something in me. And I thought, is this one of those self-actualization, kind of positive thinking things. I gotta find this in God’s word. And there it was. It’s not that we loved God, but that He loved us. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. 1 John 4:16, “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.” It’s not how high we can jump, it’s that He’s stooped down to make us great.

Jim: You’re listening to Focus on the Family and that’s Susie Larson. You can get a copy of Susie’s devotional book called Prevail, as well as a CD of this entire broadcast when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800 232 6459. Or donate and request those at our website, focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s return now to more from Susie Larson.

Susie: When I started to ponder who God was, I remember in that place, before God met me on that day, I was just so perpetually insecure. And I had a friend trying to make me feel better by telling me how kind and sweet I was, and it didn’t help me at all. And I remember one day, the holy spirit whispered to me, “As bad as you think you are, Susie, you’re actually worse than that.” (laughs)

Audience: (laughs).

Susie: “But Jesus died knowing full well who you were.” And that actually was the most honest thing, I needed to hear that, while I was yet a sinner Christ died for me. And it was another one of these moments, we’re here, um, we had this thing, and it’s laughable now. I’m so grateful that God allowed it, even though I never wanna return there again. But in the contrast of my friends who had health and wealth, we’d, had none of those things. And I had this dryer that kept breaking and we didn’t even have enough money to go to a laundromat. And we live in Minnesota where it’s winter seven months a year.

Audience: (laughs).

Susie: Anyway, so when the dryer would break in the winter, and I’m almost embarrassed to tell you this, but we’d hang a rope from the living room and hang our garage sale clothes on the rope. So they would dry. And battling Lyme, I had a big IV bag hanging from our broken mini blind, so I would do my IV while I’m drying the clothes. Don’t you just wanna be my friend right now? (laughs)

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: (laughing) I’m just like, “Oh my word.” And, but one of those times, you know, the dryer had broken, and we had enough money for me to go to the laundromat. And I’m sitting on the bench and I’m reading this passage from John 13. And I had read it a thousand times before, but you know where that happens, when the heavens open up for you almost and the word comes alive? This happened for me. And in John 13, it says, uh, “Jesus knew that the father had given Him authority over everything. That he’d come from God would return to God. So He got up from the table, took off His robe, wrapped a towel around His waist and poured water into a basin. And then He began to wash the disciples’ feet.” In those days, the lowliest slave was the person to wash a disciple’s feet. And if there was no slave available, it would be the most humble guest. Now I want you to imagine how jarring it must have been for the disciples to be sitting around, waiting for the ceremonial washing of the feet and how jarred they must have been when their savior got up and then bowed down. And what the Lord spoke to my heart that day, in the laundromat, is that “When you know that you’re My idea, that you came from me just like Jesus came from God would return to God.” Jesus knew that His identity was not up for grabs or changeable with popular opinion or with whatever He was doing in the moment. He brought dignity to everything He did. I mean, the cross was a place of utter humiliation and scorn, and we wear it around our neck. He brought dignity to the cross. He brings dignity to everything. And what God spoke to me that day out of His word is, you know, I’m an image bearer. And if I could understand that I came from God and I’m gonna return to Him. And then that time in between, I’m not too small for big things and I’m not too big for small things. And that in, in, as I follow a risen savior, I can dare to ask God, “Do the impossible. And in, through me do amazing things, and in through me.” And then He can ask me to serve in ways that seem so small and dini- diminished without it ever diminishing me. So my, my middle son, I told you, my strong-willed one, he was, you know, our first one was compliant and more kind of fine featured, but we didn’t have the money to buy clothes to fit our chubby baby, our second one.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And he had three chins and a big belly and his, and so we squished him into Jake’s clothes ’cause we had no money. So his diapers would hang out, uh, just like guns.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And it just fit him. You know, he had this scowl on his face and his, his t-shirts always were up here. And so he had this big belly and three chins and he, he wasn’t cute. He’s adorable now, but he was not much to look at back then.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: But uh, but he had this thing where he always wanted to get naked when he’d go to the bathroom.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: But he was down the hall, I think three-years-old, on the, on the toilet and he yells down the hall, “Mom, are you sure I’m supposed to ask Jesus into my heart?”

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And I’m so pleased with this question. So I’m about to launch into my three-year-old theology.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And he goes, “Cause I think I asked Him into my stomach.” “This thing is huge,” he says.

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: So this is how Luke thought. Well behind him was JoJo, little, sweet Jordan. The one, um, by the way, when I was, when he was a year old and I was getting hooked up with home healthcare for the Lyme disease, he runs into the living room as a one-year-old with his diaper on, just little, speedy Gonzalez. And the nurse who was caring for me said, “What is he doing alive?” I said, “What do you mean?” She said, “This passes through the placenta 100% of the time.” She said, “I’ve just cared for two other women who were bit at six months, just like you, went a year undiagnosed, just like you, both babies went blind and then died.”

Audience: Aww.

Susie: “Why is he alive?” She said, “Was he sick?” I said, “Yeah.” “With what?” I said, “Double pneumonia. He was in the hospital.” She said, “IV?” And I said, “Yes.” “What medicine?” I told her. When God was pouring the oil of joy into my heart, He was saving my son’s life before I knew what was wrong with me. Ain’t that amazing? And there was a day when I’d been thinking a lot about the identity thing. And for me, I have to tell you, I had to contend for my identity. Even though Jesus paid a high price, it didn’t feel true to me. And so I had to contend again and again, I had to make the leap of faith to believe that I was someone God loved. And I was in that place, wrestling, wrestling, going, “It doesn’t feel true, but you say it is true. I’m gonna stand on it like it is true.” At that time we were at McDonald’s and uh, JoJo wanted to go back for an extra order of fries, and he was four years old. And so he wanted to be a big boy on his own. So I’m keeping the mother’s eye. I’m at a distance and he’s holding his little dollar bill, and one-by-one, people are butting in front of him and he’s getting further and further away from the counter instead of closer and closer. And he’s just so shy and so sweet, but I went up to him and like, “Honey, what’s going on?” And he just kind of shrugged, you know? And it occurred to me that the boy is not only shy, he’s very insecure. And we thought, if we don’t address this now, he’s gonna be a spineless husband and a weak employee, and not a leader that we believe he can be. So we said to this little boy, “When God looks at you, His heart beats out of his chest. He loves you so much. If you’re shy and that you have less to say that’s okay, but if you think you’re less than, that’s absolutely not okay. If you live your life, trying to dig yourself out of a hole, you’re living a lie. Jesus loves you. You’re no better than, but you are not less than.” When we started to see him share his opinion at times, you know, how about we try this game? We, it was just amazing to see. He was still the gentle soul, but the parasitic insecurity was going away, and he was becoming kind of a humble confidence. Well, months later we’re back at McDonald’s and uh, this time he wanted to go into his line on his own for an ice cream cone. And he’s standing there with his dollar, and wouldn’t you know, one-by-one, by one, people are butting in front of him and he’s getting further and further from the counter. And I am exasperated. I’m like, “Have we taught you nothing?” (laughing)

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And he just knew what I was thinking. He goes, “Mom, no, no. I know I could keep my place in line if I wanted, it’s just that all these people look hungrier than me.”

Audience: (laughs)

Susie: And like a flash of lightning, that passage from Philippians ran through my mind. Though Jesus did not consider equality with God a thing to be grasped. Think about that. He did not think of His status as God, as something to leverage to His benefit. Anybody with any kind of power or position is at least tempted to misuse that position for their benefit in a way that makes other people pay. Jesus leveraged it alright, ’cause He could, but in a way that cost Him everything so that we could gain everything. Isn’t that amazing? And when I, there’s a little picture of my little boy doing the exact same thing, same action, but one was out of emptiness, and one was out of a fullness and then knowing.

Susie: Arthur Willis once wrote, “A right act may be robbed of all of its value in the sight of God, if done with the wrong motive. God is not merely concerned with what we do, but with why we do it.” We’ve got to spend so much time getting to know this God that loves us because when we live in response to His love, it changes everything. This is where the fruit comes. This is where miracles come. This is where life happens. So as I say, you know, identity didn’t come easy for me, it was something I had to contend for. But I also believe the enemy sees your, uh, potential long before you ever do. All you have to do is look at your childhood. How did He come against you? What’s the first memory you have that would speak to some of the God-given potential you have? Because I would say that his threat to you is very connected to your threat to him. So may we stand strong and be who God always intended us to be. God bless you.

John: Well, Susie Larson has been our guest today on Focus on the Family. And what encouragement for all of us to contend for our God-given identity.

Jim: Wow, that’s good stuff, John. And I wish I had heard this message when I was in high school.

John: Hmm.

Jim: It’s such a confusing time with so many paths available that will take you to one kind of future or another. And I’ll never forget when I was 17, I was our high school quarterback looking at college scholarship offers and dreaming of making it to the pros, I thought, (laughs). And my brother Mike, uh, accused me of getting a little bit of a big head and I had been a Christian for a year or so at that point. And I wanted God’s will in my life and so right before that next game I prayed, “Lord, if you don’t want me to play college football, because it’ll take me away from you, break a bone today, but don’t let it hurt.”

John: Oh my!

Jim: And then he accused me of being a sissy. (laughs)

John: (laughs) What a clause, what a condition to put into a prayer.

Jim: Right, it’s just crazy. But uh, sure enough, in the third quarter of that game, I went back to throw a pass and our defense fell apart. I won’t name the name. And uh, man, an outside linebacker hit me so hard. We went to the ground together and uh, sure enough, I got up off the ground and my left collarbone was snapped in two. And uh, I mean, back in the huddle saying, “You guys, God has answered my prayer.” And their response was funny. They thought I had a concussion. (laughs)

John: (laughs)

Jim: And so they were like, “Uh quarterback’s, uh, not right.”

John: Yeah.

Jim: And uh, so I obviously walked off the field. And my identity, I think in that very game was, uh, right there rooted in God’s direction for me.

John: And not something you could accomplish.

Jim: Yeah.

John: I mean, that’s, that’s ultimately what He wants for us, is to look to Him.

Jim: Well, there’s two ways to approach that one. I could have just assumed it was a coincidence or consider it a God incident. And thankfully I chose to say, “I think God answered my prayer.” And with that, uh, you know, I love Proverbs 3:5, where the Lord tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.” I don’t think it requires a broken bone, but I- I’m sure He appreciated the faithful nature of my statement.

John: (laughs)

Jim: Uh, so let me encourage you to seek the Lord like Susie Larson talked about, uh, today, to find your identity in Christ, not in materialism and other things. And then, uh, learn how to walk out His plans for your future. And if you’d like to talk to somebody about that, please give us a call. We have a very friendly staff here at Focus on the Family, that’s ready and willing to listen to your concerns, pray with you, answer questions. And if your situation warrants it, they can request a callback from one of our caring, Christian counselors.

John: Yeah. That’s a great team. And, uh, they’re here to serve you, so please just know that, um, you can call. And this Bible-based help is free. It’s provided for by the generosity of so many donors.

Jim: Yes. And we thank those donors for making it possible for our counselors to provide a one-time consultation to about 1500 people each month. Think of that. Uh, there are a lot of hurting people out there and it’s an honor for us to come alongside them and help them get on a better path to help in healing. For example, uh, here’s a letter we received from Mary. She said, “Several years ago, my daughter went through a very rebellious time in life and was raising her children alone. I turned to Focus on the Family for help. I spoke to a counselor, and I really felt valued and understood. A few days later, I received a package of resources from Focus, geared toward intentional, Christian grand-parenting. Since then our daughter has settled down and remarried. Thank you for showing us how to demonstrate Christ’s love to our grandchildren during that perilous time, and for your encouragement and prayers. God bless you.”

John: Oh, I so appreciate Mary giving us that feedback and being an involved grandparent and uh, what a great reflection of the team here serving her in that moment.

Jim: Yeah. I was so glad we were able to partner with the Lord and with those donors in helping her in that way. I like to say that here at Focus on the Family, we’ve built a great engine, we just need the fuel to keep it running. And that fuel is the support of you, the donor community, uh, especially those who can partner with us on a monthly basis. It helps us immensely. It doesn’t have to be a large amount. It’s just that consistency, which helps us balance the books every month and allows us to plan better. And if you can make a monthly pledge of any amount, we’d like to send you a year-long devotional, written by Susie Larson, it’s called Prevail: 365 Days of Enduring Strength Through God’s Word. And that’ll be our way of saying thank you for helping us help families like Mary’s. If you can’t, uh, make a monthly commitment right now, we understand, and we can send Susie’s book to you for a one-time donation of any amount. So get in touch with us today and get Susie’s great encouragement for your daily walk with the Lord.

John: And you can reach us when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800 232 6459 or donate online and request your copy of Prevail at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. By the way is, summer is here. If you’ve got vacation plans in or through the area, here in Colorado, stop by Colorado Springs and see the Focus on the Family campus. Let us show you around. Uh, there is so much to learn here and a lot of energy. Uh, and I’m pretty sure your kids will really enjoy the Adventures in Odyssey play area as well. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we, once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Fighting the Spiritual Battle For Your Marriage

Jason and Tori Benham struggled with conflict until they realized marriage is a spiritual battle. Fighting together for their marriage rather than against each other transformed their relationship. In this conversation, you’ll hear practical tips about working through conflict, overcoming destructive thought patterns towards your spouse, and reigniting godly jealousy for your husband or wife.

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Abortion Survivors Tell Their Stories (Part 1 of 2)

Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 1 of 2)

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Abortion Survivors Tell Their Stories (Part 2 of 2)

Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 2 of 2)

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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