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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Walking Through Depression

Walking Through Depression

Offering hope to those struggling with depression, Plugged In's Paul Asay discusses his own battle with this affliction and the healing he's experienced through his relationship with Jesus Christ.
Original Air Date: February 11, 2021

Excerpt:

Paul Asay: But if you just take it one step at a time, can you take one more step? Can you take that step to the next day? Can you take that step to the next hour? Can you move forward? That is so important when you’re dealing with depression, just the ability to push forward.

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John Fuller: Well, that’s Paul Asay and he joins us today on Focus on the Family. And your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: You know, John, I think depression literally affects everybody because if it’s not directly impacting you with a family member, I’m sure there’s a friend or someone you know at church where depression is impacting them.

John: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Jim: And today’s program, we are going to speak to this issue very candidly. Uh, according to the National Alliance of Mental Health, more than 17 million US adults, over 7% of the population had at least one major depressive episode in the last year. That number could be going up because of, uh, you know, the pandemic issues and all those things. Uh, and anxiety disorders seem to go hand in hand with depression. Over 40 million adults in the US, 19% of the population, uh, have dealt with some form of anxiety. And our guest today, as you mentioned, has walked through these mental afflictions and he has some very strong, very personal insights into that dark world of anxiety and depression. And his story is what you’re going to hear today. And I am hopeful that it will give you the hope that you need to get through another day.

John: Yeah, there’s a message of healing in Christ here. And Paul is a senior associate editor at Plugged In. That’s our team that reviews movies, and TV, and games, and more, and they really, uh, center on media discernment for families. And you can hear him on the weekly Plugged In Show podcast. He’s an award-winning journalist and author, and really has a beautifully captured his journey with depression in a new book called Beauty In The Browns.

Jim: Paul. It’s so good to have you back in the studio. This is your second time.

Paul: Second time. (laughs) Last time I was talking about movies, which is a little more cheerful of a subject.

Jim: Yeah, right. But we’re so grateful for the role that you play with Plugged In. I know many parents listening and watching appreciate your advice that you give them. Why does that excite you to walk in the door every day, looking at pop culture, through video games and movies and all of that stuff? To me, it’d be a downer. (laughs)

Paul: You know, it really is exciting. I’m, I’m a story guy. I love stories. I, I get jazzed when I listen to other people’s stories and the stories that I see on screen, or even in video games, they have always resonated with me. The power of entertainment in our culture has never been as powerful as it is today. And so, because of that, I feel like the team at Plugged In is able to you know, scratch an itch that I think a lot of parents have. They need to know about this sort of stuff. And so, because of that, it really feels like, like we’re meeting a need and there’s nothing more rewarding than coming in and talking about, you know, a met need.

Jim: Yeah. Uh, a couple of years ago, um, you had a situation with your son that I think does aluminate the struggle you face with depression. And again, this is something that you’ve written about now, this is something I’m familiar with. My wife, Jean has struggled with anxiety and depression. So, you know, we know what that is like. Um, so as we ask these very intimate questions, I hope, you know, the listeners, this is all for the betterment of people listening. We’re not forcing you to be here or anything like that. (laughs)

Paul: Right, right. Exactly.

Jim: But we need to get down to the serious issues. And so a couple of years ago you had this interaction with your son and it helped you kind of understand where you were at, what happened?

Paul: It was, um, it was one of the most difficult moments of my life. Uh, what happened is my son, he’s a young adult now, he is living at home, he actually od’ed. He overdosed on some pain medication and some cold medication. Um, we took him to the emergency room. We spent all night with him. He went to a suicide prevention place where he was able to spend a few days there. Um, he was obviously struggling with some issues that, um, we knew about, but I don’t think fully grasped, fully realized. And as he sort of came out of that, we were able to sort of, um, grapple with that a little bit more. And I realized much to my shame, honestly, that my son and I had never really talked about the issues of anxiety and depression.

Jim: Yeah. Uh, I’m going to ask you what depression looks like in just a moment. But just to, to inform the listeners, uh, you know, CDC did a report not long ago, that 3000 teenagers, this doesn’t count junior high and elementary school, but 3000 teenagers a day are attempting suicide right now. That should alarm all of us. And when you add in the junior high and elementary school kids, it’s quite an astonishing number. And again, that’s why we want to cover this. And with that in mind, uh, how prevalent that is, what are the signs of depression? What does it look like? And describe, uh, for those who may not really relate to it or understand it, help them better understand what depression looks like.

Paul: You bet. I want to answer that, that when you’re looking at your teen, because I think that’s a really key issue. Um, when you’re looking at a, at a teen, at a child who’s dealing with depression, it can be so hard to determine sometimes what’s depression and what’s just being a teen.

Jim: Right.

Paul: I mean, you can be moody. Your grades can drop, you can stop taking care of your personal hygiene as much. Um, you stop enjoying some of the things that you did in the past. And all of those can be just a sign of normal adolescence too. So parents really need to be vigilant and really talk with their teens about some of these issues. When it comes to dealing with it yourself, and, and honestly, depression is one of those issues that is not diagnosed enough. All those figures, all the figures that we know about depression, those are under counted because a lot of people don’t even realize necessarily that they’re depressed, but some of the symptoms can be obviously feelings of worthlessness of failure. Uh, suicidal ideation is of course a huge one.

Jim: Right.

Paul: Um, changes of patterns of sleep. You know, if you’re not sleeping very much, or if you’re all of a sudden wanting to sleep all the time, that can be a huge issue. A red flag can be diet. All of a sudden you stop eating or you’re eating way too much. Um, and sometimes it can be as simple as lack of focus, we can struggle to focus like we need to. Um, I find that when I’m in the midst of my depression, it feels like, um, static, where it takes extra concentration to really zero in to meet my deadlines, to even, even form a coherent sentence, it can be a challenge.

Jim: No, and, and I so appreciate that. I mean, you’re… Especially for parents with teens and younger kids that are showing signs of depression, that’s what we want to inform. And I think we’ll put a list of those.

John: Yeah, we’ll link over to a list. And we also have our Live to Thrive curriculum to help parents understand, what does it look like when a teen is depressed and perhaps thinking suicide? It’s all going to be on the website.

Jim: Yeah. Paul, you use a couple of word pictures, one, to describe depression. And, um, you said it’s like a mountain and then you compare it to a toddler. (laughs) So what, what are you getting at there? Maybe you can clarify it for me. (Laughs)

Paul: You bet. When you look at depression in a way, especially when you’re looking on the outside, looking in, what does depression look like? Depression, like a lot of different mental illnesses has so many different facets for it. And, and we all know what a mountain looks like and yet do we? I mean, there’s so many different manifestations that you can have, you know, certain mountains. We live in Colorado. There are certain people who would say that this particular mountain is one gigantic peak. You have other people who say, “Oh, that’s three because there’s some variation in the levels of the altitude.” And, and so you have all these different wrinkles that can make up depression. I honestly believe that everybody who suffers from depression, they suffer with it very individually. It feels very different from one person to the next. Um, that said there are definitely some commonalities. And I think that the toddler (laughs) example, it really does feel like this toddler’s flinging around, the toddler would be depression, uh, flinging things around and creating just mass chaos, where you can’t even hear yourself think. Um, if you lock them in the closet, he’s still gonna bang on the door. Um, it’s one of those things that it’s almost impossible to get away from. Depression can be so tricky I think because there are no easy answers. I think that sometimes we long for easy quick fixes. If I do this, I’ll be pulled out of my depression. When you’re suffer from depression it’s just not that easy, it’s a process.

Jim: Yeah. Let me, let me get into that because the church’s response to depression, this is a perfect place to address that. And, you know, good intention people will say, “All you need is the word of God.”

Paul: Right.

Jim: “All you need is prayer. All you need.” And in some cases that might truly do the job. You know, you might get a lift from, uh, your relationship with the Lord. And, and that is understandable. That’s what we all want to seek at times, right, when we’re feeling down. But sometimes, especially if it’s physiological, those answers are a little trite. They don’t necessarily bring the result in the relief that’s needed. And, uh, you know, God works in all of this. He created us, he knows the biochemical responses in our brain, our bodies, et cetera. But speak to that, um, nuance of the fact that if we have diabetes or if we have kidney failure, we’ll be very open to doing dialysis or taking medication to control our blood sugar, whatever it might be, but when it comes to, you know, the issues of brain chemistry and the fact that we may not have enough serotonin or other things in our chemical makeup, in our brain, that taking medicine can be a good thing to give you the relief that you need in that area. And it’s a battle, isn’t it?

Paul: It really is a battle. And, and you’re absolutely right. Medicine can be a huge help. Now, now sometimes it can take a little bit to actually balance the medication so that it really helps people, uh, even that is not a quick fix, but it’s truly something that people who have depression, that struggled from depression, often need. It is a chemical imbalance. Oftentimes, you need to have something to help regulate that. I think that psychology, you know, going to a counselor can be a huge help for a lot of people. This are…

Jim: And reading the word and praying to God.

Paul: Exactly.

Jim: I mean, those are the places to start.

Paul: That’s exactly right. In, in some ways, it’s almost like you look at your physical health, right? You need to do a lot of things to stay healthy. You need to exercise, you need to eat right. That exercise can have lots of different prongs to it. Um, all of those are really critical for keeping your body healthy. Sometimes you need, well, all the time, you need those same tools to keep your mind healthy. And some people need more tools than others. They need that medication. They need the ability to regulate whatever chemical imbalances are causing them to suffer.

John: Well, Paul Asay is our guest today on Focus On The Family, and he’s captured his story and some great insights about depression in his book, published by Focus On The Family, called Beauty In The Browns. And we’ve got copies of that here at the ministry. Uh, just stop by the website, focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Uh, Paul, let me ask you, uh, again, for the benefit of the listeners, how did depression… Where did you recognize it? What age were you? How do you think it took root? Uh, what was going on just to better understand your story?

Paul: Sure. Honestly, I was one of those people who, who went undiagnosed for a long, long time. I had struggled with anxiety growing up. I was a fairly nervous, quiet kid who took a lot of emotional baggage on himself, right? Um, as I grew up, I grew into a college aged student. I’ve fell in love. I suffered what I consider my first real bout of depression, soldiered through that. Then when I was probably in my mid 20s, I had what can only be really described as kind of a, a total breakdown. I’ve always been a person who dealt with emotional trauma in my gut. You know, I would have stomach aches. I would have, you know, it would just bother me. One morning, I woke up and I just felt completely sick to my stomach. I had not called in sick at work ever, but I did this day. And I wound up spending the next three weeks flat on my back on a couch, not able to do anything. I still thought that it was mainly a stomach issue. And we went through, uh, quite a bit of time, several weeks actually trying to figure out what was going on with my stomach. Nothing physically was wrong with it. So we started to pursue some other avenues and we discovered that I was dealing with a severe depressive bout essentially.

Jim: Uh, Paul in the book you share about how you felt far away from God and, and how that I think kind of increased your depression even, yet, a moment ago, you talked about not feeling necessarily close. So how… What did that feel like for you to be far away from God and how did it impact your depression?

Paul: When you’re in the midst of hardcore, severe depression, you almost, or at least this is the case for me, you almost feel dead. You almost feel empty, you can’t deal with anything. And that includes your relationships. Um, God felt not just distant, but absent. Mentally I knew that he was there, but I couldn’t even process that fact. And that’s a very different thing, I think the knowing that he’s out there and he’s lived with you and he loves you, even if you don’t feel the closeness that you wish you could.

Jim: Yeah, I found it interesting, you mentioned in the book where you had your son and that helped to disguise or kind of pave over your sense of depression. Why was that and what were you benefiting from in terms of the birth of your first child?

Paul: I think the main thing that happened when my son was born is that it helped pull me outside of myself. One of the interesting things about depression is that it inherently shrinks your world. Your world grows smaller and smaller and smaller until you can only really think about yourself and how miserable you feel. (laughs) That is a very difficult thing. My son’s birth to be quite candid was completely unexpected. And my wife and I were not married. We were going to college. It was a very stressful, difficult time. I was dealing with some depressive issues then, and it felt like when we learned that Wendy was pregnant with our son, it felt like our whole world was caving in. It felt like we were just at the very, very bottom. But the thing about it is that unexpected pregnancy and all the stuff that comes with it helped focus my mind instead of being so tied up within myself, all of a sudden I had more people to think about. I had a future wife to think about. I had a future son to think about. We had a future that we had to build together. And so that was a strong catalyst for me to actually grow out of the depression. I can’t say pull myself out, but I sort of grew out of it. And when I think that that’s a really important tool to deal with depression is the ability as much as you can to focus on others.

Jim: No, that’s really good. That’s important. And I think the idea that you were thinking of the future is so hard for people that struggle with depression.

Paul: Absolutely.

Jim: The future is important. It’s important to God. He has a role for you, your spouse, obviously, and your children. You had a daughter next and you thought maybe things were in a good place and it was all rolling pretty well, and then what happened?

Paul: One of the things about depression is some people suffer from it once. They have one very serious bout of depression, and then it’s gone. For others, it’s like a terrible horror movie franchise where it just keeps coming back. Um, and this was an unexpected thing for me. I did have a beautiful, loving wife. I had two great kids. I was dealing with, um, you know, some strong career moves that I was doing. I felt fulfilled in some ways, even though the stress was pretty overwhelming, apparently. Um, so the depression at that point in time took me by surprise. I was really surprised to find myself flat on my back in that couch. Um…

Jim: You were in the basement for three weeks, trying to cope.

Paul: Three weeks trying to cope. It was, it was hard to even go to the bathroom.

Jim: Let me ask you, and boy, and that’s a huge statement. I mean, that’s… But your wife, for those of us that maybe are not suffering in that way-

Paul: Right.

Jim: -but we’re close, you know, because we’re, we’re the spouses, what was she going through, what was she observing, what was she feeling, and how was she making every day moving forward?

Paul: Wendy, my wife did everything she could. She would come down and she would, you know, be kind to me and rub my head and, you know, try to take down food, which I wouldn’t eat. She would encourage me to go for walks. She would, uh, one of the times that I remember most strongly was she, I- like you say, I had been down in the basement for three weeks. I’ve been isolated very much from even my own family. She brought down my kids just to see if that might help. And, uh, I was so appalled with myself that in that moment, just looking at them, look at me, it was one of the most difficult moments of my life. You know, because as a dad, you want to be strong. You want to be there. You want to be with your kids. And I wasn’t in a place where I could do that. And they looked at me with such fear.

Jim: Right. Uncertainty.

Paul: Yeah. And I felt completely worthless and a failure as a dad. And of course that doesn’t help one’s depression at all. (laughs)

Jim: Well, and I, so again, I so appreciate this, Paul, because literally millions of people will suffer from depression, anxiety, and they’re going through something, they might be in the basement right now. And somebody has turned on this radio program or they’re listening via podcast, whatever it might be. I do need to ask what, at the end of the three weeks, what was the snap? What pulled you out? What got you on your feet upstairs, so to speak?

Paul: Yeah. It was a process. And what I talk about in the book is that for me, it required three things. It required love, it required time, and it required a really timely kick in the rear, honestly.

Jim: What does that sound like?

Paul: (Laughs) It was… When he was really good about just letting me deal with it. And I think that sometimes depression is one of those things that you need to walk through. It does… It just does sometimes take time. But at the end of the three weeks, when it came down, she sat down beside me on the couch and she looked at me so lovingly and so caringly and she said, “You know sometimes I don’t know whether I need to just give you a big hug or a kick in the butt.” And I think that that was perfectly timed. A lot of depressed people can’t hear that kind of thing without… It won’t help a lot of people who are really in the depths of the, of their depression. But because I had had some time to process, the fact that I felt loved and cared for, not only by my family, but by my coworkers who had been missing me for three weeks, I was off the job for three weeks. They showed a lot of support and, and that was really important to me. Wendy came at exactly the right time to say, maybe you just need a kick in the butt. And it wasn’t a complete turnaround. It wasn’t like I was all better. It actually took several weeks, several months really, before I felt myself. But it did get me out of the basement.

Jim: Wow. Interesting. Um, Paul, let me, let me ask you, as we’re winding in here, there’s a couple of questions I really want to make sure we answer. One is, you’ve developed some mechanisms to be able to stave off that depression nibble. So as that you feel those emotions coming up, you feel that desperation, that kind of closing in feeling, what are some of those things that you’ve learned to do in order to avoid the depths of depression?

Paul: One of them is just staying on a fairly reliable routine. I find that when I’m on a routine, when I am planning out my day, uh, that works for me, it helps keep me busy for lack of a better word. And I think that sometimes for the sort of depression that I deal with, that busy-ness is a good thing. Um, looking out for others as much as we can to think about the wellbeing of your friends and your family, as much as you can is a really important thing.

Jim: That’s a great idea.

Paul: Um, another very, very simple thing is I started running. I mean, this is really a bizarre catalyst. It doesn’t sound very spiritual at all, but the process of running has really helped in a lot of different ways. Number one, I think that the exercise can help, not only keeps your body healthy, but it can sort of lubricate your mind. Um, it can help generate some of those important chemicals that your brain needs to function well. But the other thing that it does is it helps me understand my own depression better. Putting one foot in front of the other that is so instructive to me on how to deal with depression. It’s… Depression can feel overwhelming. Life can feel overwhelming when you look into the distance and you think what you’ve got to do to get to, you know, whatever you want to get to?

Jim: Right.

Paul: But if you just take it one step at a time, can you take one more step? Can you take that step to the next day? Can you take that step to the next hour? Can you move forward? That is so important when you’re dealing with depression, just the ability to push forward, even if it hurts, even if it’s painful.

Jim: Paul, let me ask you it… Right where we started when you talked about that distance and that friend of yours challenging whether or not you even had a relationship with Christ. And you’ve gone through the valleys now in your life, and you’ve had mountaintop experiences, your children, all of those things, you’ve been in the basement, and in the top floor, I guess, (laughs) is a metaphor for that. But describe that where you’re at now, because I don’t want people to walk away from this feeling like maybe your friend was right.

Paul: Yeah. Yeah. It’s a really great question. And I will be completely candid. Um, I still very rarely feel a friendship with God where I feel him with me all the time, where I feel that he is truly, you know, right next to me, shoulder to shoulder, he can still feel distant. That’s just part of my walk of faith. But at the same time, there have been moments, like, it feels like you walk under the sun for the first time after being in a cave for, for months or years. You feel that warmth, you feel that preciousness, you feel that joy. And that does happen to me every once in a while. And those moments help me get through those try times.

Jim: Yeah. Well, and I so appreciate the beauty in which you painted that picture because everybody’s going to have a different sense of that. It doesn’t mean God isn’t, or is any more with a person than another person. But as long as you’re confessing Christ and pursuing him, um, it’s a beautiful way to look at it. God is always near.

Paul: Absolutely.

Jim: The scripture does say that.

Paul: Absolutely.

Jim: I think it’s our ability to understand that and work that out in our lives.

Paul: I think that’s absolutely true. And when we think about God, our relationship with God, as a relationship, we think about the relationships on our own lives. We all relate to each other differently. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. The fact that we all enjoy one another’s company in different ways, I think there’s a beauty in that.

Jim: Yeah. Paul, this has been so good. Thank you for your openness and your candor. I mean, it’s really gonna be helpful for so many. And, you know, I want to turn to the listener, you, and just remind you that we’re here for you. I mean, supporters have taken care of ensuring that we have Christian counselors here to talk with you, um, and to pray with you and to put resources in your hand, uh, even like Paul’s great book, uh, Beauty In The Browns. Um, get in touch with us. Uh, don’t be shy. Don’t be embarrassed. We have dealt with issues for 40, over 40 years. And, uh, I doubt we have not come across something. So do take us up on that. Let us be a part of your healing journey. Let us introduce you to some things that will work. Let us, if you don’t know Jesus as your personal Lord and savior, let’s start right there. And don’t shrink back. Don’t be embarrassed.

John: Yeah, give us a call so we can arrange a time for counselor to call you back, or maybe just talk through some resources that are available like Paul’s book, um, Beauty In The Browns. We have a lot more as well. Uh, our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Donate as you can. And we’d love to say thank you for joining our support team. Uh, your gift of any amount, uh, will make a big difference, and we’ll say thank you by sending the book to you. Again, 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY, or focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Paul, thanks again for being with us.

Paul: You bet any time.

John: On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks so much for joining us today for Focus On The Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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